It's rarely just sleep. Or just potty.
The usual advice didn't work because it was never written for your child. With the Todspot N.E.S.T. Method, I look at the whole picture, build one clear plan around your child and your household, and stay with you while you put it into practice.
You've read every article. You're still stuck.
You've done the wake windows. The sticker charts. The three-day method. The advice from your mom, your sister-in-law, your pediatrician, and a stranger on the internet.
And the loudest voice in the house is the one in your head: what am I doing wrong?
Nothing. You've been using tools that were built for someone else's child.
Two children can have the same problem for completely different reasons.
Two babies can both wake at 2 AM and need two completely different plans. Two toddlers can both refuse the toilet, one from fear and one from discomfort.
Most advice fixes one piece. Sleep and potty struggles come from how the pieces fit together: development, routines, feeding, temperament, and how the adults respond. Fix one, and the others pull it back.
That's why I don't start with a method. I start with your child.
Understand the child. Support the parent. Build the skills.
- NNurture the whole child.
I understand your child's needs, development, temperament and daily life before choosing an approach.
- EEmpower the parent.
You understand what matters and why, so every hard moment stops being another guessing game.
- SStructure the path forward.
One clear plan, with steps and responses every adult in your child's life can follow.
- TTransform through practice.
We watch how your child responds and adjust, until the new skills hold.
Less guesswork. More confidence. Lasting change.
Where would you like to start?
The Whole Picture Sleep Program
Night wakings, short naps, early mornings, contact naps and bedtime battles. Nights and naps that finally work for your child and your family.
Explore sleep →The Comfortable Potty Program
Withholding, toilet refusal, accidents, or an attempt that went badly. A child who feels the urge and lets go, without bribes or battles.
Explore potty →Sleep and potty are where families start. Feeding, routines and behavior come along, because they're all connected.
Imagine your house a few weeks from now.
An evening that belongs to you again. A bathroom trip that's just a bathroom trip. A partner, a nanny and a daycare all doing the same thing, because they all understand why.
And when the next thing comes, a regression, a new sibling, a trip, you know exactly what to do.
You don't need to have it figured out. That's my job. You get one clear next step at a time.
Every family's name is changed. Their words aren't.
I just had to take a moment to THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart. I honestly don't know how to sum up how much this has meant to us as a family. … I was so skeptical at first, but WOW… this has truly given us our lives back.
We have twins and joined Todspot when they were about 2½ months old, deep in sleep deprivation and chaos… we would have guidance and support for everything baby. The absolute best!
A private conversation. No pressure, and an honest answer about whether I'm the right person.
Hi, I'm Arianne.
I'm the founder of Todspot, a mom to three boys (so yes, I get it), and a complete nerd about infant and toddler development. Families come to me because nobody is sleeping, or potty training has become a whole situation. But it's rarely just sleep or just potty.
My goal isn't for you to need me forever. It's for you to understand your child so well that you know what to do when the next thing comes.
Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant · Certified Lactation Counselor (CLC) · Nurtured Heart Approach® Parent Coach · Certified Oh Crap! Potty Training Consultant
Who this isn't for
- If you want one call to fix bedtime. I don't do one-off sessions. What makes this work is knowing your child over time.
- If you want a guarantee. Your child isn't a formula, and I'd be careful of anyone who promises otherwise.
- If your child needs medical care first. I'll tell you, and help you figure out who to see.
Questions
What happens after I request a consultation?
I read every answer you send. Then we talk. If I can help, I'll show you exactly how we'd work together and what the investment is. If I can't, I'll tell you, and point you to who can.
What does working together include?
Everything is built around your child, so I walk you through exactly how it works on our call, once I know what you're dealing with.
Is Todspot only about sleep?
No. Sleep and potty are where families start. The work covers feeding, routines, development and behavior, because they affect one another.
Do you work with families outside the US?
Yes. Everything is virtual, wherever you live.
Can I book a single session?
No. The work depends on knowing your child over time and adjusting as they change. A single call gives you a snapshot, and snapshots are what you already have.
Is this private?
Completely. I never share a family's name or story without permission, and calls are never recorded unless we both agree.
Do you provide medical care?
No. Todspot is coaching. Diagnosis, medication and treatment stay with your child's doctor, and I work alongside them, never instead of them.
You've tried it alone. Let's look at the whole picture together.
You don't need to have it all organized. That's literally my job.
A private conversation. No pressure, and an honest answer about whether I'm the right person.